Today is my Aunt Loretta's birthday. She died peacefully in her sleep on 3 May 2012, six months ago. She was ready. I miss her and all those who are with her.
Aunt Loretta had a good life, but it was marred by tragedy: both her children, my first cousins Maria and Skip, had MS, the kind that gets progressively worse, the blinding, crippling, disabling kind. Both died young, in their 50s. Losing your children too soon, and so tragically, is too painful to contemplate. I cannot imagine it. My aunt and uncle suffered. Their grandchildren suffered. My aunt Loretta lived with grief all her life.
Aunt Loretta was my mom's sister, her only sibling.
She was a beautiful young woman with a sense of style, a devoted wife
and mother, a good traveler and great cook. She remained a pretty woman
into her senior years, when she moved from Florida
to North Carolina (and back and forth several times), but was closer to her grandkids Roz, Kris, and Dan.
Aunt Loretta and my mom spent a few months together in Haiti, when my Uncle Steve worked for an American company there in the 1970s. It was a highlight of their lives. My mom remembered
the poverty, getting to know and speak the language (she was a whiz at
languages, a gene I didn’t inherit), and helping out at a Catholic orphanage. She remembered the vibrant culture, art
and beauty of that place. It’s why I’ve
always had a special place in my heart for Haiti .
My
mom was two-years older than her sister, so to her our aunt was always “my little sister.” Aunt Loretta, like
my mom, was bi-lingual, both speaking Italian and English.
How I envied that, but we kids were never taught to speak our
grandparents’ language; our parents felt we should know only English and become successful
American citizens. My cousin Maria, who spent several years living in Verona when her former husband, a doctor, was with the
US
army, did pick up
Italian ; she loved sharing Italian cultural and cooking traditions with her kids and all of us, like her Christmas decorations, which I take out every year and prize, and her delicious chicken parmesian and lasagna.
My sister Andy and I had a great 85th birthday party for Aunt Loretta in Tallahassee (19 Nov 2002). Our mom was with us. |
She looked pretty good at 94, too, when she came to visit us in Sylvania with her granddaughter Roz in August 2011 (hard to believe it was only a little over a year ago). She visited every single person in our family, missing baby Chase by only 1 day. She had a great time, and so did we. We are filled with happy memories because of that visit. We were hoping she’d come back, this Spring. It was not meant be.
Now
my aunt is at peace, like her children, my parents and my dear
brother Loren. "She's in a beautiful place," my daughter Elissa believes. "I know you're not sure about this mom, but I am!"
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